"Even though one type will dominate as we begin studying ourselves using the tool of the Enneagram, all the fixations are present in every ego. . . if we are genuinely interested in spiritual learning and liberation though the Enneagram, we need to study all the fixations--their cores and their shells--as they manifest in our lives." A.H. Almaas, Keys to the Enneagram: How to Unlock the Highest Potential of Every Personality Type
Engaging the Observing Self and Releasing the One Fixation:
It's important that we learn to see our patterns as they emerge, without judgment, to notice and accept as they come and go without shame or denial or trying to shut them down, to see how the fixed personality reactions show up and choose different behaviors. From this Observing Self we'll begin to see the patterns loosening and dropping away.
- allowing ourselves to be wrong by staying present when criticized, learning how to respond non-defensively,
- noticing when angry toward others and owning/channeling anger more effectively,
- observing instances of black-and-white thinking and looking for nuance, shifting to positive reframing and creative problem-solving,
- listening for "preaching" of our opinions and instead sharing them in a more interactive mode,
- approaching circumstances that don't conform to our ideals by finding ways to be more flexible,
- allowing ourselves to let go of crossing every "t" and dotting every "i,"
- celebrating evidence of patience and what Almaas calls brilliancy--"powerful for gaining synthesizing insights from many dimensions because it brings us a capacity for synthesis" (p. 78).