When less self-aware, they need to be in the middle of things, giving help and advice whether others want it or not. They have a sense of entitlement and can use manipulation to influence others. If they feel betrayed, they may even become vindictive ("After all I've done for you!").
Their driving force is pride, which is attached to their self-image as helper. When well-developed, they'll be aware of their own needs, providing balance in their lives and allowing them to give freely, without expectation of return.
"I think it's important to always focus on what we need to be doing to serve others." "Was that helpful?" "Of all the people in the organization the President could have called, he called me." "Both of my parents were alcoholics, and I took care of them from a very early age."
First-Order Change: Acknowledging their own needs, seeing how they contribute to their own workload and saying no, setting clear boundaries, asserting their interpersonal power more openly.
Second-Order (Transpersonal) Change: Loving, giving without strings. Humility, which is true compassion without expectation.
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